The Pain of Change

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“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change. -Tony Robbins


The most painful seasons of our live’s often produce the greatest change. What is it about pain that makes us seek change? Is it that pain is uncomfortable? Does the urgency of pain help us to see life differently?

Pain has a unique way of changing us. If you’ve been through a really hard season of life, where you’ve been at your wits end, you understand what its like to be in pain. Often the pain we experience yields no other option but to change. Why does pain often  produce great change? Why don’t we naturally change?


“One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up, instead of what they have to gain.”-Rick Godwin

Change is not always easy. We naturally like to do things that are comfortable for us; when things go against our natural rhythm of life we resist it. For example, if you’re new to working out, the first couple of times you exercise will be hard and painful. You may even want to give up, but if you think about the benefits that you would gain from exercising and how it can change you, its makes the pain that you experience worth while. Why don’t people often look at change in life that way? What would happen if people focused their attention of the things we can gain through change?


“There’s no gain, without pain.”-Benjamin Franklin


Pain has the ability to bring transformational change.  What if we begin to see pain as an opportunity for great gain? Imagine how different life would be. What if the pain that you’ve experienced in life was not designed for your benefit but created to give others hope?

These are some steps to work through the pain of change:

1.) Understand where you are.

Acknowledge that you are going through a difficult time. Begin to find solutions to help you get what you need to make it through your difficult time.

2.) Be okay with not being okay.

Don’t be afraid to grieve. Depending on the level of pain you’ve experience you have to understand that its okay to be human and express emotions. It’s not healthy to bottle up emotions.

3. Take care of yourself.

Find some healthy ways to destress yourself. Learn to take time to make sure you are mentally, emotionally, and physically healthy. Go for a walk, do something you love, get together with friends, or have time by yourself.

4.) Find purpose and take swift action

Understanding that we have purpose gives us reason to move forward even after a painful experience. Don’t allow pain to detour you from you from your destiny. Take action and move forward and allow your experience to be a testimony.

Use pain to create positive change. Let it fuel you and propel you into a new season.


Thanks for reading!

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