“You and I possess within ourselves at every moment of our lives, under all circumstances, the power to transform the quality of our lives.”– Werner Erhard
Have you ever experienced a time or season in your life where you felt stuck? You begin to think to yourself, “How in the world did I get to this place?” or “This is not where I am suppose to be at this point in my life?” In those moments you feel stuck, hopeless and broken, but what if the purpose of those moments are so much deeper than you realize? What if the pain was meant to kickstart your transformation? What if the moments of hopelessness, loneliness and disappointment were designed to help you realize that you deserve so much more? What if the heartache wasn’t designed to pull your down but to push you forward into who you truly are created to be? What if it’s all designed to push you into your personal transformation?
“We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.”-Dr. Henry Cloud ‘
One of the hardest seasons of my life this year helped to push me to a place of some of the greatest transformation i’ve experienced. From this I understood that true change and transformation doesn’t come without a cost. Most of the time change and transformation is painful and the emotions and feelings that we experience as a result of that pain are sometimes hard to bear. There is purpose in it all and sometimes it requires us to dig deeper and come face to face with the reality of our lives. At times you may feel powerless and the thoughts of doubt and disappointment begins to cloud your mind and you begin to feel like stuck like you’ll be in the situation forever. But really that couldn’t be further from the truth. You have within you the power to take back your life and regain you power.
“At any moment you have the power to say this is not how the story will end.”
I talk a lot about my time being in quarantine for two months with Covid-19, not because I want to bore you but because it was truly one of the hardest yet most transformative experiences of this year for me. Being isolated and all alone for that period of time is enough to drive anyone crazy. It was really hard, painful, and depressing at times but it was the pain of that experience that caused me to confront the things in my heart that I didn’t even realize was there. When things are silent it really gives you a chance to hear. In the beginning I struggled and I often asked God the question, “Why me?” “Can’t you just heal me already?” It was so hard being tested in my faith along with so many other things. But as I look back it all served a purpose. Once I begin to change my mindset from, “Why me?” to “What is this trying to teach me?” and “How can I take advantage of this time along?” Everything changed for me. I started to realize that I had the time to learn, grow, take care of myself and do so many other things I wanted to do while being inside and isolated from everything. It took me some weeks to get to that point, but once I got to that point I realized that I had taken back my power from the pain that the experience created in me. From here I want to share with you how I took back my power and gained control of my life.
5 Steps to Regain Your Power & Take Control of Your Life
1.) Understand that you are not stuck
No matter what the situation looks like, know that you are not stuck. One decision or action can change your entire situation. Take time to reflect and think about what you can do to change your situation. Most of the time if you sit back and think about how you can change you will figure something out.
2.) Change the way you think about the situation
If you start to believe that you are stuck you will be. But, if you make up and believe in your mind that you are not stuck, you will begin to see opportunities to get out of your situations. Start to think differently about your situation. Instead of thinking, ” Why is this happening to me?” Begin to ask yourself, “What is this situation trying to teach me?” This takes you from being a victim to be a victor because you realize that you can do something about your situation.
3.) Be Intentional about creating what you want to see
Know what you want and make a plan to get it. In order to move forward you have to map out and know where you want to go. Be intentional about creating and developing habits that will create the results you want to see. Be intentional about taking care of your mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health. When you take care of yourself and are intentional about your life it gives you there confidence to move forward.
4.) Take Action and move forward
You have to begin to move and do the exact things you planned out. Nothing happens without you taking action. If you say you want to do something you must make time for it and do it consistently. Set small goals and make steps to achieve the goals everyday.
5.) Trust the process as you move forward
When you’ve followed all the above steps you have to trust the process. Change doesn’t happen overnight but overtime. Once you begin to experience the start of this new change it will motivate you to continue to move forward.
This is how I regained my power and took back control of my life during one of then hardest seasons of my life. I had to get to the place where I understood that I was not stuck, change that way I thought about the situation, get intentional with my time, take action and implement what I planned and trust the process as I moved forward. These steps changed the rest of my time during quarantine. I started to realized the blessing of time that I had on my side. I started to see it as a way God was pushing me into season of transformation. The process wasn’t easy but God gave me the wisdom to navigate through my hard season and to come out better than ever. I don’t know what you are going through but I just want to encourage you, don’t give up! You are going to make it. You have the power within you to say this is not how my story will end. Trust that God has your best interest in mind, He will never give you more than you can handle. He is with you and you are not alone. I pray that He gives you the grace and power to take back your life and I hope that these practical steps really encouraged you. Thanks so much for reading!
Which tip encouraged you the most? Comment below. I would love to hear how this encouraged you or I would love to hear a story of how you overcame a difficult season of your life.